The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is serious, and my wife drove my mother home at midnight. What should I do?

 "We both work in a third-tier city. The daughter-in-law was introduced to me by a colleague. From dating to marriage, there have been ups and downs. At the beginning, there were some frictions between the daughter-in-law and my family because of the wedding gift. The current situation is Dawa 2 Years old, her second baby is 6 months pregnant. My mother has come from home to help us with the baby since the first baby was born.

Since my mother came to bring the baby, my daughter-in-law and my mother have been having small frictions in their lives due to their personalities and the unpleasantness during their marriage. I have also been trying to comfort both sides. The life is still fair, at least I can maintain my performance. Harmony until last night.

The root of the matter comes from the small degree at home. Since I have a small degree at home, my daughter-in-law has to go home through Xiaodu from time to time at work, and then keep taking screenshots of me, appealing to my mother's various problems, such as letting the baby watch TV for too long, feeding the baby The food is too single and other various problems.

Slowly the contradiction gets deeper and deeper. I got off work early last night, and I was playing with my baby after I got home. My mother was preparing dinner. My daughter-in-law suddenly broke out when she got home from get off work and yelled at my mother.

It turned out that my mother called my sister yesterday afternoon. During the phone call, she told me that my daughter-in-law was at home, such as never eating leftovers, loves meat, and likes to play tricks. My daughter-in-law was watching and recording the screen, and then when she got home, she opened the recording she had heard before, arguing with my mother while playing it, and asked my mother to go home that night.

My mother was also aggrieved: everything I said was true, and I just told my daughter Lajia what was wrong. Waiting for your family every day, three meals a day is when the dishes and chopsticks are arranged before calling you, you still monitor my every move like this every day?

During the quarrel, I kept fighting on both sides, my mother on the one hand, and my wife who was six months pregnant on the other. Later, I still didn't stop my mother from calling home. Later, my sister received a call. It was almost one o'clock in our city. After my sister arrived, she couldn't persuade both sides, so she picked up my mother and left.

After my mother got home, she called me and said that there was no such daughter-in-law in this life, and she would not allow my daughter-in-law to enter the house. what should I do? "

The above is a netizen's narrative. My suggestion: Your wife did not do it right, monitor the elders and record them, not to mention who you are partial to, at least you have to judge the right and wrong things fairly.

Regardless of whether you have a second child or not, you should not let your mother and you live with you for a long time, because your living habits are unclear and your ideas are different. Your wife is very good and strong, and now your mother is still working hard. You'd better find a nanny for your second child.

To be honest, it is really difficult to be an old man now, and a mother-in-law who can take care of children is not bad. This daughter-in-law needs to be considerate of her mother-in-law. It is very tiring to take care of the children and cook for you, so you have to be kind to the elderly. The elderly are not obliged to take care of children and grandchildren. There are three issues to consider in this matter:

1. I don't know what caused the conflict when we got married, so is this conflict that your daughter-in-law cannot get through?

2. Since there are conflicts, starting from the eldest, your mother should be able to take into account that the conflict will intensify. Even if the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is harmonious, there will be big differences in educating children.

3. In this case, if economic conditions permit, the elderly can provide financial support, hire a nanny, and rent a house or buy a house in your community for the elderly instead of living together every day.

Finally, if your mother and daughter-in-law are very self-willed and don’t think they are wrong, it is difficult for them to empathize with each other in this situation. The only thing that can’t be resolved is to let go first, do your career well and let your wife Knowing that you are very capable, let your mother know that you are doing well now, and reconcile them when they are calm. Any mother hopes that her children will live well, and any wife wants her husband to have face in front of outsiders.