What do men desire most from women? To be honest, it is nothing more than these 3 things

 The purpose of your hard work is to have a good grade, and the purpose of your hard work is to stop worrying about life, to be appreciated by your boss and have a chance for promotion.

Human consciousness is socially purposeful, that is to say, we hope we can get a little feedback from something we are doing.

Only in this way can there be the motivation to continue, otherwise no one wants to go on on a road where there is no return.

Therefore, in a relationship between the sexes, a man is not without any purpose to give to a woman, he must have a plan, but the picture is not limited to the material, more of the spiritual level or emotion Level of demand.

No man really chooses to be with a woman who doesn't want anything. If there is no comfort at all, then there will not be so many people struggling to manage relationships.

So what do men desire most from women? To be honest, it is nothing more than these three things.

1. Needs to

be affirmed: Desire to be praised and affirmed by women

01). There is a woman abroad who does not grow up very well, and there are some obvious freckles on her face. Even if no one laughs at her, she is very inferior, so she always walks with her head down.

On Children's Day, she hoped that she could have a gift too, so she went to the store and bought a bow.

She kept her head down when she put on the bow, and the clerk told her to try to raise her head so that she could see whether she was wearing the bow in the mirror.

So the girl raised her head, and the clerk immediately praised her for her beauty, saying that this bow tie was simply tailor-made for her. The girl looked at herself in the mirror and seemed to feel that she was really different from normal, so she walked out of the store. When I still raised my head.

02). Many people looked at her along the way, but the girls felt that the pedestrians on the road today looked at her because she wore a very beautiful bow today, and met her classmates, who also praised her that today is different from usual.

When she came home and asked her mother to come and admire her bow tie, she saw her mother look confused. She looked in the mirror and realized that the bow tie did not know when it had fallen off.

People will never reject others' affirmation and praise, because it will give people the confidence and recognition they want deep in their hearts, so that they will know that what they are doing is not meaningless, and then they will be more motivated to operate. Own love.

The same is true for interpersonal relationships, and the same is true for love. This is true for women, and the same is true for men.

2. The need to be respected: Desire for women to save their face outside

I saw a funny video: a couple, a man called his brother in the kitchen and said, "Who is washing the dishes these days? Isn't this all a woman's job? My guy never dared Let me do the housework. I said she would never go west. There is no way. This is status."

However, when he said this, he was still holding a dishwashing brush dipped in detergent in his hand, and next to him was the freshly washed dishes.

Besides being funny, we can also feel that men are essentially face-saving creatures.

From the beginning of primitive society, men were responsible for hunting out. In the feudal period, men made money outside to support their families, while women were responsible for housework and stayed home.

Therefore, in the maintenance of interpersonal relationships, men have more opinions and evaluations of themselves in the unexpected world than women.

When there were only two people, no matter whether the woman reprimanded the man or "punched and kicked", they all accepted it with a smile without any complaints.

But they hope that in front of others, women can save themselves a lot of face and let others know that they are a very tough person and will not be easily manipulated by women.

Therefore, when at home, men give women face, and when outside, women have to give men face. Only in this way can mutual understanding of love go further.

3. The feeling of being "free-ranged": longing for women to respect their private space

No man wants his life to be controlled by others, even if he is the one he likes, the one he loves.

Because this means that you will no longer have your own time and space to do your own things, and all your life will no longer belong to you.

When love develops to this point, it has actually become deformed. Everyone needs to have their own space to do their own things.

Just like when sowing, only enough space is reserved between the seeds to ensure their healthy growth.

Therefore, women should give men a certain amount of freedom. Love is not that the tighter you hold the more you can stay by your side.

As a classic line in the movie "Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon" says: "When you hold your hands tightly, there is nothing inside; when you open your hands, the world is in your hands."

In short, love needs to follow the Taoist thought of "ruling by doing nothing", it should give people freedom rather than the feeling of imprisonment. In a relationship between the sexes, the best control is not to control.