"Because of a piece of underwear, the bride retired on the spot." The bride and groom had their own words, and more details broke

 Recently, there was a farce in Zunyi, Guizhou, China about retiring because of inappropriate underwear, which caused heated discussions across the Internet.

On January 4, a video of a wedding without a bride became popular. This is how it happened. There is a local custom that the bridegroom buys clothes for the bride, which is called a rebirth.

The night before the wedding, the bridal caravan went to the bride's house the night before. The bride said that her underwear size was not appropriate, and the woman's parents thought that the size was not right, which meant that it was unacceptable and unlucky.

The bride asked the groom to buy it again. It was already midnight and the shop had closed. The groom could not buy it again for her, so a dispute broke out.

The conflict became more and more troublesome. The next morning, the bridegroom had to return to the wedding banquet with the caravan. The bridegroom's mother cried bitterly on the spot. In desperation, this supposedly beaming wedding turned into a New Year's party for relatives and friends.

Some people put this video on the Internet, and public opinion is biased towards the man, thinking that the woman’s family is too much, a piece of underwear is just a small piece of underwear, so as not to have such a temper, everything should be focused on the overall situation.

However, a slap can't make a sound, and we can't just listen to the man's side words and listen to the woman's voice.

In order to clarify the facts, the bride deliberately registered a social account. She said that they met in 2017 and fell in love in 2019 as free love.

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They got engaged in March 2020, received the certificate on December 30, and held the wedding during the New Year's Day holiday. It was a very happy thing, but I didn't expect this to happen.

In the eyes of the woman, underwear is just a fuse, in fact they are not suitable at all.

At that time, the attitude of the man and his welcoming team was not good, and there was a sense of supremacy. Some people in the team said that if you marry, you will marry, and if you don't marry, you will withdraw the lottery.

The husband’s mother said on the phone that she would return the gift if she didn’t settle, and refund as much as she received. The indifferent attitude of the man's family makes the woman's family feel very wronged.

When it comes to bridesmaids, the woman's parents can hardly hide their sadness. Their family received 88,000 bridesmaids and 20,000 yuan for clothes. The woman's family has prepared a dowry of 100,000 yuan, bought electrical appliances and bedding, and is ready to let her daughter be married in a decent way.

But the man's family's sentence about how much to refund, completely broke their hearts. They don't care for money, but only hope that their daughter can be happy.

Seeing this, many people feel dumbfounded. Both men and women hold their own words. It can be said that the wife is justified by the public. Which one should we trust?

As far as I can see, each of them is playing 50 boards. Both parties are wrong. Marriage is not a child's play. The two families obviously disagree with each other and it is difficult to integrate together.

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First of all, underwear is the fuse. Even if there is no underwear, there will be other conflicts, ranging from a dowry to a bowl and a cup, which can ignite the flames of war at any time.

As the saying goes, it is not that two families where the three views are not in harmony with each other without entering the family, the views on marriage are different.

Take the issue of inappropriate underwear. The woman’s family thinks this is a big deal, which means that it cannot be tolerated after marriage.

The bride feels that as long as the groom coaxes herself and speaks softly, she may be able to compromise.

But the man thinks this is too small, so he can just wear an old one. Maybe he is willing to pay 1,000 yuan. In short, after the wedding, don't let relatives and friends watch the jokes.

Seeing the woman's house awkward, the groom is anxious, and people can say anything if they are anxious, so there is no mood to coax the bride.

Of course, I don't think they did everything right, I just analyzed their mood at the time.

One wants to behave well before the wedding, and the other has too low EQ to turn good things into bad things, and they are not on the same channel. This can be explained as a disagreement between the three views.

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Secondly, the parents of both sides are also in the mud, not only can not solve the problem, but also add fuel to the fire, so that the marriage quickly collapsed.

The woman’s parents insist that underwear is inappropriate, meaning that she cannot be tolerant after marriage, and the man’s mother speaks harshly and refunds her money if she doesn’t want to get married. This is a business, not a marriage.

It is said that marriage is a matter of two families, and both parents are torn apart, and it is difficult to integrate into their respective families even after marriage.

To give the simplest example, the couple quarreled, the wife returned to her natal house angrily, and the husband confided to the parents. At this time, the parents' words are especially important.

If you blindly accuse your daughter-in-law of being ignorant, and go back to your natal house at every turn, the conflict between the couple will only become trivial and even divorce.

The same goes for female parents. Think twice before speaking and doing things. Don't just think about your own feelings, but also think about each other's grievances, and tolerate each other with mutual respect and understanding.

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Finally, from ancient times to the present, it is popular to raise your head to marry a woman and lower your head to marry a wife. In other words, when marrying a wife, the groom must be low profile.

You see that when you get married, you are making trouble for the groom, and the wife’s family is also embarrassing the groom when you receive the family. The purpose is to hope that the husband can respect his wife after marriage.

Bowing your head and marrying a wife can better reflect your husband's generosity and tolerance. After marriage, he will protect his wife from wind and rain and be a responsible man.

In a marriage, the wife pays more than the husband. The pain of pregnancy and childbirth in October, the difficulties during confinement, the anxiety of raising children, and the various maladjustments in the in-law’s house all require women to bear.

If the husband can be considerate of his wife at the wedding, and be more tolerant and considerate to his wife after marriage, the marriage can be happy and complete.

Raising one's head to marry a woman and bowing one's head to marry a wife is a folk marriage custom. We don't care whether it is right or wrong. Perhaps modern people should pay more attention to equality and mutual respect between men and women.

Let’s go back to the marriage in which the underwear becomes a farce. Both the man and the woman are already going through the divorce proceedings. The man expresses his hope that the woman will return the gift, and the woman says she will withdraw the gift after the divorce.

Leo Tolstoy said that only love can make a marriage sacred, and only a marriage that makes love sacred is a true marriage.

In this short marriage, I don’t see love, I only see the calculations. There is no winner in this marriage, only the embarrassing indifference and selfishness. Failure is the inevitable result.