How do couples maintain their relationship? "Symbiosis effect" to tell you the answer

 The love of each other is the envious of many of us. Whether it is quarrel or dissatisfaction, the people who accompany us from beginning to end are the same people who have blushed with each other, but they have never left each other because of quarrels. heart.

When they are old and can't go anywhere, the two sit together in a rocking chair to watch the sunset and chat about the past. It is a beautiful thing in life.

It's just that such a good marriage and such a good love are not something that everyone can have. It is more of those couples who were vigorous at the beginning, but ended up parting ways because of some trivial things.

Today, divorce has become the norm for young couples

01). A long time ago, most people would not mention divorce, but they could bear it. The reason was for children, saying that it was shameful to say that divorce was not easy to remarry, etc.

But now it’s different. Young people don’t seem to take divorce seriously. They don’t think about the consequences of divorce. Public opinion in society is also drizzle for them. They only need to feel that the current marriage makes If you are unhappy or uncomfortable, then leave.

It sounds like people's self-awareness is constantly rising, but it reveals a kind of despair. Marriage is like a child's play, and flash marriages can also be flashed away. There is no thoughtfulness, only a whim.

When each couple walks into the marriage hall hand in hand, they should have the best longing for love and firmly believe that the person next to them can accompany themselves for the rest of their lives.

02) However, the pace of the information age is really too fast. When people rush to catch up, their hearts become impetuous.

It may only be a slight contradiction in the marriage, which can be completely changed, but people already lack sufficient sense of responsibility and patience. Even if they know that marriage can be repaired, they are too lazy to repair it.

"Divorce" has become a word that people often talk about, unsuitable, divorced; no longer love, divorced; no feeling, divorced, it seems that there is no price, and it is easy to make a difficult person to form The family immediately broke up.

It’s easy to gain weight, but it’s hard to lose weight. It’s easy to destroy a family, but it’s hard to form a family. Marriage should be a happy one, not just come and go, so marriage should be a serious business. It makes more sense.

How can the husband and wife maintain their relationship? Need to make good use of the symbiosis effect

01) What is the symbiosis effect? I don’t know if you pay attention to such a phenomenon in nature——

Some single-grown plants will have sparse leaves even if they grow taller, and they are rarely boring, but when many plants of the same kind grow together in clusters, it is another scene.

Each of their individual plants seems to be deeply rooted and full of vitality.

People call this mutual influence and mutual promotion phenomenon in the plant kingdom "symbiotic effect". Of course, this phenomenon also exists in our human community.

02) When a man or woman is capable and rich, if he (she) is alone, you will always feel that their lives are a little lonely.

Maybe they have a height that you can't reach, and they have financial capabilities that you don't have, but they don't have the things you have. This kind of thing is called pyrotechnics.

In a marriage, what one person does is never called love, it must be two people supporting each other.

There is me in you and you in me. Only in this way can the marriage not be boring, so that the marriage can burst out its greatest vitality.

In marriage, 1+1 can be greater than 2

When I had nothing to do as a child, I often squatted on the ground to watch the ants move, but I didn't study it carefully at that time. I didn't understand the taste until I grew up.

When the ants move before heavy rain, they usually line up in a "two dots and one line" formation, and then they are busy in an orderly manner.

The power of each of them is very small, it can even be said to be very small, but it is such a small power that has completed many large projects such as moving through unity.

A school is a whole. In this whole, teachers and students are part of the individual. Their individual role is at best for teachers to teach and solve puzzles, and students to study hard.

But if all teachers and students run a school together, teachers teach and educate people, and students work hard to feed back the teacher’s kindness, the learning atmosphere of the whole school attracts more teachers and student resources.

At this time, the overall function of the school is greater than that of a single teacher, which is the so-called "1+1>2" concept.

In a marriage, if the wife and husband go their own way, you will find that no matter how the marriage is managed, there is always a lack of warmth.

That's because it doesn't have centripetal force, and it can't think about one place and move it with strength, so naturally there is no way to use the power of symbiosis to manage the marriage well.

And when the husband and wife are thinking about each other, caring about each other, and running a marriage together, then this kind of love will become the envy of everyone.